My heart is full of mixed emotions tonight. Tomorrow starts the super bowl of the Christians’ holidays. It’s so interesting to compare where you are today as opposed to one year before.
Last Easter was the most significant and joyous Easter of my life. I had been studying the book of John and for the first time the Gospel became truly real to me and I could hardly contain my excitement throughout the celebrations.
This year, however, my heart and my fellow church family is in a season of hurt. A few weeks ago our pastor was caught in devastating sin and decided to run away and abandon his flock instead of humbly confessing his sin and shame and facing the many lives he has hurt deeply. It’s been a painful month and I’ve almost been dreading the upcoming Easter holiday. Since our earthly shepherd is gone, it’s hard to feel like celebrating.
When the effects of someone else’s sin are so fresh, I find it’s hard for me to take my eyes off the pain and put them back on to Christ and the cross. What I’m being to discover, however, is that the cross is exactly where hope can be found.
The cross gives meaning to our sufferings. It redeems them. It means we do not suffer in vain. No pain is worthless. God uses every tear to draw us closer to Him. The cross also reminds us that one day, the children of God will be resurrected and spend eternity with our Creator. No more tears. No more pain. No more betrayal.
That’s what makes life worth living.
And that’s something worth celebrating.
So tomorrow I will eagerly go to church service and worship with my harp along with my church family and we will remind each other that because of the cross, we can celebrate even in times of grief.
I pray that no matter what season of life you are in, you’ll find hope in the cross this Easter, too.
Wow, what a whirl-wind week it has been! I’m still getting bombarded with so many messages of encouragement and of women sharing their most vulnerable stories. I have cried and prayed with many of them and my heart of overwhelmed with emotion. I feel so blessed to be trusted with their confidence.
But not all the messages and media publications have been so inspiring. After officially coming out as a sexual abuse victim of Bill Gothard on Monday, Bill personally wrote a rather strong attack of me and publicly posted it online. I’ve had a long time to choose how to handle my pain from Bill. I can let it destroy me, or let God use it to strengthen me. After years of pain I eventually choose to forgive Bill. And so, I told him so in my response to his public attack and choose to tell him about what he REALLY needs: the Gospel. My official response has been published by Julie at the Spiritual Sounding Board blog. HEREyou can read the back story to my response as well as read the vile attack from Bill himself. However, I have decided only to publish on this blog my response to Bill — for my goal here is to share my story and how Jesus rescued and redeemed a hurting, lost girl.
I find it interesting that you have chosen now of all times to publish such a detailed, public attack of me, full of private details, when you know full well I am not allowed to defend myself.
I also find it interesting that you have put so much emphasis lately on the “defamatory statements” made against you. Yet, you have openly called me bitter, a vicious liar, and a conspirator aimed at destroying your ministry, among other things. Some of your supporters have even created an entire website against me and my fellow plaintiffs. They just posted a nearly 4,000 word piece filled with very private information and blatantly defamatory remarks toward all us woman.
I promised myself a long time ago I would never address you in this format. However, since I was not given the chance to tell you the following three things in court, as I had anticipated, I will address you here.
1. You remember that letter I wrote to you two years ago that was turned over in discovery? Remember the last page? I forgave you.
And so, I say it again, Bill.
I forgive you.
Not only for all the years growing up in IBLP, but also for the last two years of the lawsuit and for this “letter”. But remember, I also said, “Forgiveness is not forgetting certain actions of people toward you. It’s not staying silent. It’s not excusing certain behaviors. Forgiveness is taking the burden of the pain, anger, and bitterness off your own shoulders and giving it to Jesus.”
And so, Bill, I want you to know I have already released everything and turned it over to Jesus. I can truthfully say I have no feelings of hate or bitterness toward you.
2. Honestly Bill, over the last several years you have taken up FAR too much of my time, thoughts, and emotional energy. I truly have no more interest in speaking out against you publicly. I have already said my peace. I am ready to move on with my life and joyously dance in the light of my new found freedom in Christ!
3. I have changed, Bill. I’m so thankful I am no longer that scared little girl you knew back in 2012, the time these emails were written to you. As the song says, “I am no longer a slave to fear — I am a child of God.”
I have learned a lot.
I have learned I have an incredible Father who LOVES me — unconditionally!! His love isn’t BASED off me, it’s PLACED ON me. My God’s love is not poured out because of the worthiness of the object of His love but because of the abundance of His character AS LOVE.
I have learned about His radical, scandalous grace! I can come to my Father anytime, with any pain. He is ALWAYS there, offering comfort and security. And when I am too weak to walk? My Father scoops me up and CARRIES me.
I have learned that there is nothing I can do to make my Father love me any more or any less. You see, Bill, I am enough. Not because of anything I do. Not for following the Commands of Christ or the 7 Basic Principles. Not for memorizing scripture. Not for meditating day and night.
I am enough SOLEY because JESUS IS ENOUGH!
THIS is freedom. And it’s amazingly beautiful.
Bill, I earnestly pray for you that you may be able to experience this freedom someday. To be able to learn the true meaning of grace and mercy. To see just how incredibly forgiving our God is. To walk in the freedom of grace and be able to depend on JESUS’S righteousness instead of your own.
To quote your favorite hymn: THAT just might make it “Worth it all” someday.